I see you took tx_jeeper's advice and went to the Jeep short wheelbase board.
As mentioned there, do a search first. A lot of topics have already been covered and postings get kinda redundant if we keep going over the same stuff. But by all means, if you can't find the information that you are looking for, or the answer isn't there that you are looking for, then ask. Be patient though, using the search can be very time consuming! There is alot of info to be found there!!
I have an 83 CJ7 - 258 I6, 4 spd, 4.10 gears, 33" BFGs. The original gearing was 3.31 (I think) which seemed ok with 31" rubber, but once I installed the 33s, wow! I had to really ride the clutch to get the Jeep going. Now, this may not be as noticable with an automatic, but with a stick, you'll notice it right away. You may be able to tolerate it. I did for a few years. But if you do alot of sand running and hill driving you will hate it!
I think I actually ended up overgearing with the 4'10s. 3.73s probably would have done the trick, but I'm happy with what I got. Now my speedo actually reads faster then I am going and my rpms are high at 65mph, but I don't do much highway driving and when I do, I just stay in the right lane. Off road characteristics are very good!!
I think the 4'10s would be a good match with 35s for the street and general off road use. But if you are mainly using your Jeep for off roading, then you may want to consider 4.56s or even 4.88s. If you search around, I'm sure you can find a chart that shows which gearing works best with tire size and rpms considered. Here is one from Superior axle
http://www.superioraxle.com/htmlfold...alculator.html
Hope this helps some!